When Someone Close Dies

It's hard to sort through the flood of emotions that typifies grief. Intense sadness, numbness, even anger and guilt all are normal reactions. Grief also can have physical effects, such as insomnia. Linda Lang, M.D., a psychiatrist at Jersey Shore University Medical Center, explains, "Grief follows no ideal timeline. But it sometimes begins with denial or the inability to accept the loss. Eventually, however, the pain becomes real."

How long someone grieves varies from person to person. Someone who loses a spouse or child may grieve for as long as three years or more. This is particularly true when the death is unexpected.

While it's hard to imagine at first, most people eventually do adjust after the death of a loved one. Dr. Lang points out, "The key to this adjustment is confronting the loss and the painful feelings that go with it." She suggests that these actions may help:

• Openly sharing feelings with friends and family
• Joining a grief support group
• Writing thoughts in a journal
• Setting aside time for reflecting

However, there is a danger that grief can turn into major depression or anxiety. Signs for this include:

• Feelings of worthlessness
• Persistent thoughts of death
• Trouble carrying out everyday activities.

Dr. Lang also suggests, "Anyone experiencing these symptoms of depression should seek medical attention."

Meridian's Behavioral Health offers a variety of programs. Call 1-800-822-8905 to learn more.